Be the Strong, Confident, and Caring Woman You Were Meant to Be  
  
Tired of doing all you can for others while your relationships remain stuck in neutral--or headed in reverse? Paul Coughlin and psychologist Jennifer Degler show how being nice can harm you and drain the life out of your relationships. They explore the keys to fulfillment at home, work, church, and even in the bedroom. You'll discover that emulating the real Jesus is the key to transforming from a Christian Nice Girl into an authentic, powerful woman of loving faith.  
  
"What's wrong with being nice? Paul Coughlin and Jennifer Degler make a strong case that women need to be bold and assertive rather than people pleasers who try to do too much. I recommend this book to you."  
  
\--Dr. Kevin Leman, Author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday  
  
  
"This refreshingly practical book is a must for any woman who yearns to move from the entanglements of being nice to the freedom of being real."  
  
\--Georgia Shaffer, PA Licensed Psychologist, Certified Life Coach, and Author of Taking Out Your Emotional Trash  
  
  
"As a Christian counselor, I see many women paying the high price of being too nice: depression, anxiety, stress-related physical ailments, as well as difficult and destructive relationship patterns. Finally there is a book I can recommend that gives women the reasons why nice isn't always good and the tools to help them stop."  
  
Leslie Vernick, Licensed Counselor, Speaker, and Author of The Emotionally Destructive Relationship and Lord, I Just Want to Be Happy.  
  
  
Paul Coughlin is a bestselling author, international speaker, and founder of The Protectors, a faith-based and values-based solution to adolescent bullying.   
  
Jennifer Degler, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, life coach, and a frequent speaker at women's events and marriage retreats.

Paul Coughlin hosts a radio talk show in southern Oregon and is the author of No More Christian Nice Guy. Paul has been interviewed by C-SPAN, the New York Times, and numerous radio and television stations across the country. His articles have appeared in many publications, including New Man, Faithworks, and Ministries Today. He has also been editor of a weekly newspaper and a radio station program director. A former Christian Nice Guy, Paul is a happily married father. The Coughlin family lives in Medford, Oregon.  
  
Jennifer D. Degler, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and life coach. A frequent speaker at women's events and marriage retreats, she also maintains a counseling practice, seeing adults, children, and couples for psychotherapy. She is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors and the founder of Creating Christian Change, a life coaching enterprise that works with clients across the United States helping them to create lives they love. She has been interviewed by the Lexington Herald-Leader and local NBC and CBS affiliates as an expert in life coaching and mental health issues. Jennifer and her husband, Jeff, live in Lexington, Kentucky, with their two teenage children.

When passivity and false niceness don't bring the abundant life Jesus promised, some Christian women try even harder to hide behind a fragile façade of pleasant perfection. Paul Coughlin and Jennifer Degler give women the empowering message that they have options far beyond simply acting nice or being mean--if they will emulate the real Jesus Christ and face their fears of conflict, rejection, and criticism. Brimming with enlightening information, thought-provoking questionnaires, real-life stories, and biblically based teaching from both the male author of the pioneering No More Christian Nice Guy and a female clinical psychologist, this book will motivate women to allow God to transform them into authentic, powerful women of loving faith.

A life-giving message of change for women who are tired of pleasing others and who want to move from being nice to being good.

Jennifer Degler; Paul Coughlin

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DEDICATION

INTRODUCTION: FRUSTRATED, FEARFUL, AND FAKE: MEET NICOLE, CHRISTIAN NICE GIRL 

CHAPTER 1: THE ONE-SIDED JESUS: SANCTIFIED SWEETNESS 

CHAPTER 2: SOCIAL AND CULTURAL PRESSURES: SUGAR AND SPICE AND HOW WE LEARNED TO ACT NICE 

CHAPTER 3: HARMFUL CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES: SIFTED SUGAR 

CHAPTER 4: NICE VS. GOOD: HOW DOES GOD PREFER HIS WOMEN?

CHAPTER 5: FRIENDSHIPS AND FAMILY: HOW NICE WRECKS YOUR RELATIONSHIPS 

CHAPTER 6: DATING: HOW NICE ATTRACTS MR. WRONG 

CHAPTER 7: MARRIAGE: HOW NICE MESSES UP MATRIMONY 

CHAPTER 8: SEX: HOW NICE STEALS YOUR SPICE 

CHAPTER 9: WORK: HOW NICE CRIPPLES YOUR CAREER 

CHAPTER 10: THE JOURNEY FROM CHRISTIAN NICE GIRL TO GOD’S GOOD WOMAN 

APPENDIX A: “NOT SO NICE” JESUS IN THE GOSPELS 

APPENDIX B: ABUSE IN MARRIAGE 

NOTES 

Coughlin, Paul

When passivity and false niceness don't bring the abundant life Jesus promised, some Christian women try even harder to hide behind a fragile facade of pleasant perfection. Paul Coughlin and Jennifer Degler give women the empowering message that they have options far beyond simply acting nice or being mean--if they will emulate the real Jesus Christ and face their fears of conflict, rejection, and criticism. Brimming with enlightening information, thought-provoking questionnaires, real-life stories, and biblically based teaching from both the male author of the pioneering No More Christian Nice Guy and a female clinical psychologist, this book will motivate women to allow God to transform them into authentic, powerful women of loving faith.

Paul Coughlin hosts a radio talk show in southern Oregon and is the author of No More Christian Nice Guy. Paul has been interviewed by C-SPAN, the New York Times, and numerous radio and television stations across the country. His articles have appeared in many publications, including New Man, Faithworks, and Ministries Today. He has also been editor of a weekly newspaper and a radio station program director. A former Christian Nice Guy, Paul is a happily married father. The Coughlin family lives in Medford, Oregon. Jennifer D. Degler, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and life coach. A frequent speaker at women's events and marriage retreats, she also maintains a counseling practice, seeing adults, children, and couples for psychotherapy. She is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors and the founder of Creating Christian Change, a life coaching enterprise that works with clients across the United States helping them to create lives they love. She has been interviewed by the Lexington Herald-Leader and local NBC and CBS affiliates as an expert in life coaching and mental health issues. Jennifer and her husband, Jeff, live in Lexington, Kentucky, with their two teenage children.

When Just Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts You, Your Family, and Your Friends

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